We are packing up for a trip to Atlanta and preparing to move two days after we get back! Such a busy life we lead these days! But lots of love as well! Happy Valentines Day!
Well, our little Camille is 1 month old. She is particular like her daddy, dramatic like her mommy, and sweet, sweet, sweet like her brother! Of course, we are smitten!
But…I am struck at how much harder the transition to two is! All of my friends with multiple babes must be troopers, because I don’t remember any of them struggling or complaining very often! Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t change a thing and we are SO SO thankful for this precious little gift, but, whew, this is hard. It’s sort of like all the things no one tells you about giving birth…a girl needs a heads up on this transition from one to two! So here is my list of 10 things I wish I had known…
1. You will feel torn trying to respond to multiple needs.The hardest part for me was not being able to pick up Gray and hold him, especially when he got sick and spiked a fever the first week home (apparently you can’t lift more than a few pounds after labor…I missed this tip the first time around).
2. The lack of sleep is SO.MUCH.WORSE. Napping during the day while the baby naps? That is a cruel joke!
3. Don’t expect your experience to be the same…labor and delivery were so different for me (i.e. longer and more painful) than the first time around and Millie is a completely different baby already than Gray was. We also had a totally different level of help the first go round. I think this is in part because of first born excitement AND we lived closer to family. But, I am pretty sure someone was holding and entertaining Gray every moment for his first month of life. (Meaning, attachment needs were being easily met). This time we have had less visitors and I find it really difficult to hold her as much while trying to attend to Gray, the house, etc. I am experimenting with using the sling and baby bjorn more now…hopefully that will help!
4. Different children will have different personalities, needs, schedules and they may need different parenting. Gray was such an easy and good baby…any hopes of attributing that to our excellent parenting skills have completely diminished..it was just the way God made him!
5. While your oldest may struggle at first (Gray quit sleeping through the night for a week and started misbehaving) he or she WILL adjust and seeing them be so sweet and engaging with their sibling will just break your heart. I have loved watching Gray engage with Millie and even try to comfort her at times when she has cried.
6. It is SO much harder to transition to two than I thought it would be (especially with Millie being colicky) BUT it is so worth it. Especially when I think about all the tragedy among us that we have no control over like Sandy Hook or this heart breaking story of such a precious little girl it, makes me so grateful for my sweet family…even in the most difficult moments.
7. You may never get anything done in a timely manner again. Case in point: it has taken me two weeks to type this post.
(Not to mention all the calls/emails I need to write, dissertation to complete, cleaning, etc).
8. You will be so grateful for any help, meals, etc. I didn’t think we would need them, but meals from some very gracious friends and even just acquaintances (since we are still new to the Burgh) have totally saved us. It has been humbling to see how helpful our new friends have been, and even some old ones from the South taking such good care of us! I will say though, next time a friend has a second (or third, etc) baby, I think I will send a cleaning lady along with a meal!
9. The transition to two may strain your marriage a bit more. When we had our first, it was the most romantic thing in the world. The transition to the second has been much more difficult. Even with Tyler home for the first six weeks (got to love the schedule of a professor!) I miss him so much! He has been beyond helpful but it also feels like we haven’t had any quality time together in forever. I miss my sweet man!
10. It is okay if you don’t have it together. My house has never been messier, I am feeling good if I even get a shower in (forget make up) and the thought of worrying about losing the baby weight didn’t even cross my mind until she hit the one month mark (with Gray I thought about it within 24 hours of giving birth)!
But, with all this said, I find being a wife and mother to be the most delightful thing, it requires so much more of me than I ever anticipated but I would gladly lay down my life for these little ones. Gray’s sweet hugs and deep belly laughs, Millie’s first smiles and coos…it all just makes my heart and life feel so full.
Ps- I have heard the transition to two is the hardest…so don’t be afraid to go for a third! (or more)!
Wow, I thought I would have so much time this month to blog, to organize our house, to do fun Christmasy activities. But the month has flown by and now is at a stand still as we have welcomed this sweet gal to the the world.
Such a sweet early Christmas gift!
We almost got to share the same birthday, but missed it by about four hours. But, we did get to bring Millie home in the same stocking I came home in 31 years ago. Doesn’t my mom look great?!
We are staying busy, trying to get some sleep and sweet Gray is absolutely the best big brother ever!
Welcome to the world Camille Mae!!
Hope each of you had a great holiday!
More posts soon!
(P.S…I forgot breast feeding was like the hardest thing ever…loved reading this…made me laugh and was such an encouragement)!
3 years ago, I made the best decision I have ever made, to marry my sweet husband.
Our wedding day was absolutely the best day of my life. The perfect start to the adventure of life together.
By year two, we had welcomed the best surprise ever into the world.
(Preferably, she will arrive tomorrow)!
What a full life we have.
I can only imagine what year four will hold! I am certainly grateful for each moment I get to spend with you, Tyler.
With each passing day, each joy, each trial, I only grow to love you more.
You are and will remain, my favorite. Thank you for choosing me; thank you for knowing me deeply, and still loving me.
“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.”
― Timothy Keller
Here are some fun little items to ask Santa to leave in your stockings this year!
So many fun gift ideas out there!
We are busy getting ready for Christmas and Baby. I love Christmas shopping…probably a little too much. It’s hard not to go crazy!
I saw this idea on Pinterest: 25 days of Christmas/showing your spouse you love them. We are on Day 4 and so far its been fun!
Vacation starts next week, so get ready to be overloaded with posts!
PS- What do you want in your stocking?
PPS- Anyone out there familiar with how to do market research? I am considering a new project…
Okay, so I was just about to give up on my quest for horizontal striped curtains and go with something more like this:
(Only I would do pink instead of purple on edges)
BUT, my mother in law has offered to sew custom panels in an effort to make my stripes!
(Will post a pic once she finishes).
AND, I found two great resources that I am in the process of getting swatches from…
Windows By Melissa does custom made (she designs her fabric using Spoonflower) curtains. I am still getting swatches from her as the right shade of pink is difficult to find! Her prices are very reasonable too! (She also does beautiful roman shades which I will be purchasing for our new house)!
MarthaAndAsh also does beautiful horizontal striped curtains in custom colors! These are a bit pricier but still a good option!
Wish me luck!!
P.S.- Anyone else heading to Target tomorrow?
I recently read this hilarious post on babble about the different types of pregnant women. Sadly, you can classify me as the “out of control” ( I weekly get a comment on how giant I am…clearly not everyone read my post on “The Pregnant Lady Rules”) or” the Awkward” Pregnant woman (meaning, my large belly seems to creep out of my maternity shirts these days…EEKS)!
Seriously, what is a girl to do???
I am sure there are lots of resources out there, but here are a few I found….
We haven’t been super great about taking pictures of my growing belly during either of my pregnancies. (This is mostly because I don’t love having my picture taken AND I am not sure I have fallen in the category of “cute” pregnant lady). But, lately on Pinterest I have seen so many adorable ones. Plus, I think it is a really good keepsake for years down the road. Since I don’t have my own adorable pictures to share, I am delighted that my friend Kim had some made. She skipped hiring a photographer and found a friend to take them and I was completely enthralled with how great they turned out!
(Okay, maybe I will change my tune and get some pics done before Millie comes)!
Aren’t these adorable….
P.S.- If you need one, here is my absolute favorite photographer
P.P.S- If you want to take your own pictures (or rather have a friend do it), here are some great photo tips
I am one of those people. And by that I mean, it takes all my self-control not to listen to Christmas music before Thanksgiving and right after carving the turkey, I am ready to put up the tree. This year will be a bit different as we will be living half in our small (now overly cluttered) apartment and our new house (aka construction zone). I am very sad, we may not even do a tree this year!
But, Pinterest is so FULL of cute holiday ideas that it is keeping me from turning into Mrs. Scrooge!
Here are a few I love….
Not to mention all the great shopping and deals that come around this time of year!
Hope you have a Happy Black Friday!!